Do you want to know how to cope with intimidation? This post is definitely for you.
Being intimidated is one of the awful and bad feelings we face this age as a youth. As bad as it is, we most times don’t know when it started because it’s a natural mechanism built around our ego and for some people, it’s their protection mechanism. Feeling intimidated means having a feeling that someone success or achievement is a threat to us or we having the thought that they don’t deserve it while we do.
This is quite a bad thought to have because everyone deserve something good and the fact that you haven’t received yours doesn’t mean others don’t deserve Thiers. For example, a friend of yours may get a car and instead of you to be happy for the person, you’re feeling some resentment about it, thinking of yourself rather than focusing on the person’s success right now.
Some even go as far as showing it obviously that they aren’t happy about the success of the other person. This also is called beefing or envy. We shouldn’t be intimidated by anyone’s success because everyone will have theirs when it’s the right time.
The following are practical ways to handle intimidation:
Instead of been intimidated, be motivated
In my own word, motivation is the positive side of intimidation. Instead of thinking those people’s success is a threat to you, why don’t you be motivated by success and try to do more so you can attain that same position one day. This is quite a working tips though it sound like you’re trying to walk at people’s pace however, some of us aren’t trying to walk in our own pace in life.
The real fact is we are slow but since the world doesn’t have a way of measuring people’s pace that will lead to success, we tend to be comfortable in it until someone challenge us. Be pushed to do more through their success.
Avoid the environment for some time
At the time when you’re feeling the intimidation, you should try avoiding the environment so you won’t have to show your envy to everyone. If you show this, you have been successful in creating an enemy for yourself instead of gaining more friends.
You can avoid having a one on one conversation with that your colleague that just bought a car so their words won’t be like they are mocking you. Help yourself.
Fight the negative thoughts
This seems to be the most important point of all these tips. It’s quite obvious that you feeling intimidated comes from your bad energy powered by your negative thoughts. Previous post have talked about how to deal with negative thoughts and this is one of the reason why you should. Most of all the bad things we engage in are powered by our negative thoughts and mentality. This is one way or the other is having a bad impression on us.
We should learn how to tame our thoughts and channel every of its products to good things. Try as much as possible to be happy for that your colleague deep inside your heart. Such happiness will attract your own happiness too.
Avoid the need to talk bad about the person
One of the things we human do is trying to talk bad about those that are doing well than us. We tend to see faults they aren’t seeing in their own lives because we are busy looking at their life while we left ours unattended to. Don’t you ever try talking bad about their achievement or trying to find a reason for their blessing?
I’ve heard someone saying he doesn’t work all year to save the money for the car, he stole the money from work because he’s the accountant. This is quite ridiculous. Imagine if someone say this about you too when you buy yours. What ever you sow, you will reap.
Conclusion
Keep your mind in perfect and positive shape and you won’t have to worry about people’s success. Use the time you have to develop yourself not monitor other people’s lives.
