10 SIGNS YOU MIGHT BE SETTLING FOR LESS IN A RELATIONSHIP

Often times we tend to be settling in a relationship without knowing we are. I have been in such sitaution before where I was settling for less than I deserve but because I didn’t know I was, I continued being in that relationship. But it has ended now and I’m happier now. That is why I thought to write this post for you to know when you are settling for less than you deserve in a relationship.

Particularly in a sea of endless options, it’s hard to sometimes assess whether the person you are with really is Mr or Mrs Right, or whether they are perfect for just right now. If you are already asking yourself questions right now, then you are on the right page. Find out the answer by reading everything below.  

WHAT DOES SETTLING IN A RELATIONSHIP MEAN?

“I think I am settling in a relationship” is an expression the vast majority use while examining their relationships with their companions. However, what does settling mean? Settling in a relationship implies being prepared to acknowledge not as much as what you need or deserve. Therefore, settling in a relationship can be something terrible.

At the point when you choose to settle in a relationship, you decide to acknowledge things that you profoundly know don’t sit right by you. The apprehension about losing the one you love is the primary motivation behind why you could settle or pitying them.

Settling often starts when you lose yourself to your partner. It happens when you start losing your value and changing small amounts of yourself to stay focused on a relationship that doesn’t serve your best interest.

However, it would help if you didn’t confuse settling with compromising. At the point when you decide to approve of all that your partner does to your detriment to make all the difference for the relationship, that is settling.

Then again, compromising is being prepared to acknowledge that your partner is flawed; they have their issues. Accepting imperfection is compromising.

We all have a list of non-debatable things we can’t approve. Assuming you end up disregarding the list of things you can’t endure to stay in a relationship that is settling. Accepting your partner is not perfect is compromising, which is important for every relationship.

Now let’s know if you are settling in your relationship:

1. You are on the look out

This means that, you have wandering eyes. When you go out, you are still looking for another person. You are still looking out to see if someone else will approach you or talk to you or ask you out even when you are in a relationship.

2. You envy other couples

When you start wanting what is going on for other couples, then you are settling for less in your relationship. You find yourself judging other couples. Being jealous of them and wanting to have their kind of relationship.

3. You fantasize about being single

When you start wishing you were single while still in a relationship, that is a red flag that you are settling for less than you deserve. Anyone who loves someone will always want to be around them.

4. You want to change your partner

When you don’t fully accept your partner. You keep on thinking about his or her potentials, what he or she could be. You want to just change everything about them: the way they smell, the way they keep their hairs, the clothes they wear, the way they talk etc.

5. You justify

You tell your friends about your partner but be like, “he is a good guy but he is not doing this or that” etc. there is always something that isn’t complete about him. They tick some boxes but not all of them.

6. When you pity them

When you start pitying your partner. You are afraid of hurting them so you just decide to stay with them out of pity. Thinking they won’t survive when you leave them and so you decide to settle for less by staying back with them.

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7. You don’t respect him

When you are in a relationship with someone and you don’t respect them, it just means you don’t love them enough or don’t see them as what you want, so you just treat them anyhow you feel like.

8. When you always feel uninspired

You feel unhappy, unfulfilled or disconnected from your partner a lot. You are not inspired by them, they are not ambitious and don’t push you to be the best version of yourself. You don’t just feel the spark, like they are not as ambitious or zealous as you are. They don’t motivate instead they demotivate you.

9. You don’t have intimacy or emotional connection

When you don’t feel like having sex or getting intimate with your partner and it bothers you a lot. Sexual connection, intimacy and emotional connection (such as navigating the bad time together, plus sharing deep seated fears, worries and concerns, as well as hopes and dreams) is a critical characteristic of a successful and healthy partnership that is meant for you. Assuming these are absent in your relationship, or you are not keen on being private or physically associated with your partner, then, at that point, it might propose there is a distinction among you. This, obviously, can regularly be credited to other behavior- but at the same time is frequently a sign that you are settling with somebody who doesn’t set your world on fire.

10. You’re afraid there is no one better

Regularly we ignore issues and red flags in a relationship when we are concerned that we may not find another person. We stay when we should leave. There might be issues with communication, connection, intimacy or your sex life – or issues about almost anything – yet the possibility of leaving makes you recoil – especially when time is elapsing and you are not generally as youthful as you used to be. Truth be told, this tension can turn out to be additionally exacerbated when loved ones around you begin to get married and settle down – just adding to the strain that you want to follow after accordingly and do what they are doing.

Dr Tari, relationship expert and clinical psychologist, explains that ‘if you have not yet developed a full and loving relationship with yourself and only feel complete or credible when you’re in a relationship and/or following the timelines of others then this is a big warning sign that you have some inner work to do. Staying in anything out of fear is a clear indicator that this may not be an aligned partnership ’.

CONCLUSION

You are more than you can ever imagine. Do not settle for bare minimum or settle for less than you deserve. You deserve someone better. Your dream man or woman exists and they are just a stone through away from you. When you notice you have started settling for less, quit or leave that relationship because it’s no longer a healthy one. I know it’s hard sometimes, but try and you will be happy you did.

Feel free to leave a comment below stating if you have ever been in a relationship where you were settling for less than you deserve.