This is quite a confusing and tactical situation. The situation where you have to pick between two good things which could be a relationship (between two handsome guy and two beautiful girls), a job, a house and many more. You really need to check out some feature so you make the right decision you won’t regret later in the future.
By approaching your decision mindfully, you can clear your head and examine your options. Then, contrast the benefits and pitfalls. Your gut can help you determine which decision suits you best.
Firstly before trying to make the decision, it’s good to understand that both choices could probably work for you. Remind yourself that when you’re presented with multiple good options, making a decision can be hard. Put a positive spin on things to take some pressure off your decision: Rather than being stuck, you are lucky to have 2 good choices.
The following are practical ways to choose between 2 good options:
Examine whether you need to choose only 1 option
It’s a bad thing to rush into anything because there might be some other ways you can do those things. See if there’s a way your 2 choices can work together, whether it’s by finessing your schedule or doing them one after the other. Sometimes, while 2 choices may seem to be in conflict with each other, there is actually a way for them to work in harmony.
For example, you might feel you need to choose between taking violin lessons and joining a soccer league, when actually your schedule might be able to accommodate both activities on different days of the week.
Make sure you are choosing the one that is right for you and not the one that is right for others.
Compare the two options
List pros and cons for each option to feel out your preference. Create a list with 2 columns for each choice, 1 for pros 1 for cons. List the benefits and drawbacks of pursuing each path. When you’re finished, tally which choice has more benefits than drawbacks.
Often times just the process of making a pros and cons list can help you gain clarity about your feelings. You may find yourself consciously adding more pros to 1 choice so you can pick that option. Rather than seeing this as a negative, view this personal bias as great. It helps you understand that you feel more strongly about 1 choice.
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Do your research on the two options
In a case like this, running a research on both opportunities wouldn’t be a bad thing. Your research may likely be from people who knows so much than you know about the opportunity or probably online using the search engine. You can visit so many online forum where you can talk to people who have experienced such feelings before.
Don’t panic
In the end, though, if the options really are very similar, then you need to relax. Even if the decision is really important, you probably won’t go too far wrong, no matter which one you pick. Also, once you pick an option, commit to and focus on it. There is a tendency after you make a decision to continue comparing the option you chose to the ones that got away. Unfortunately, this happens most often when there is something about the option you picked that is less than perfect. You pine for what you could have had if you had selected something else.
That dissatisfaction can feed on itself. Once you’re unhappy with a decision, you start focusing on all the reasons why you don’t like what you picked. And that can make you regret what was probably on balance a decent choice. So enjoy the option you chose rather than living in the alternate world in which you picked a different option.
Final Thoughts
Meditating on the choices before making the decision, will go a long way in helping you. Also make sure you do you and not do others, by this I mean, take the choice that best describes YOU in person and will benefit you.
