Are you thinking of your self esteem right now? There’s a saying that “what we think about ourselves really matter the most than what others think of us”. There’s no truer truth than this. The way we see ourselves really goes a long way to determine how people sees and treats us.
What is self-esteem?
Self-esteem is the way we see ourselves, the way we carry ourselves and value ourselves. The way we present ourselves to the world.
It’s not a coincidence that many people already know the type of profession we are in to by just seeing the way we dress. Though the way we dress doesn’t really have much effect on our esteem but it’s also important we dress well because the way we dress will determine how we are addressed.
Type of self-esteem
We have two types of self-esteem:
1. Low self-esteem
Low self-esteem is the bad type you shouldn’t have. Those with low self-esteem are thinking they are not enough, they think so less of themselves thereby creating the chances for people to use and maltreat them. They are people who walk with their heads down, who thinks they are nothing to no one and that’s why they are treated the same way. They are always doubting their capability and ability.
Most people with low self-esteem are imparted with it from their childhood by what they are exposed to. Some people’s esteem are drenched by their parent’s words or community measuring standard.
We have so many places where ladies aren’t expected to talk when men are talking. Ladies in that particular world could develop a low self-esteem thinking they are not appreciated.
2. High self esteem
High self-esteem is the type of esteem we all should build. People with high self-esteem are sometimes mistaken for being proud. The two is quite different. People with high self-esteem are those who believe in themselves, they are happy with their lives. Who walk with their heads up and a broad smile that depict self-confidence.
People with high self-esteem can’t be manipulated, used or addressed any how because they carry themselves with so much value. Now the question is, how can we build a high self-esteem?
The 5 simple ways to build your self esteem are:
1. Face your fear
Some of us have this voice in our head that keeps telling us we can’t do somethings and we truly believe it. Those voices are programmed by our past and we shouldn’t accommodate them. If your head is telling you, you aren’t beautiful, take your bath, dress nicely and stroll out to the street.
2. Give yourself a challenge
We all feel nervous or afraid to do things at times. But people with healthy self-esteem do not let these feelings stop them, from trying new things or taking on challenges. Set yourself a goal, such as joining an exercise class or going to a social occasion. Achieving your goals will help to increase your self-esteem. Don’t be intimidated.
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3. Start saying “no”
People with low self-esteem often feel they have to say yes to other people, even when they do not really want to. The risk is that you become overburdened, resentful, angry and depressed.
For the most part, saying no does not upset relationships. It can be helpful to keep saying no, but in different ways, until they get the message. Let your yes be based on your feelings not based on what others are telling you to do.
4. Build positive relationships
People with low self-esteem are always permanent in that stay because they are so much stuck with people that criticize them every time because they are gaining one thing or the other through their ignorance.
If you find that certain people tend to bring you down, try to spend less time with them, or tell them how you feel about their words or actions. Try to build relationships with people who are positive and who appreciates you.
5. Be easy on yourself
Being easy on yourself means being gentle to yourself at times when you feel like being self-critical. Think what you’d say to a friend in a similar situation. We often give far better advice to others than we do to ourselves. Tell yourself that mistakes are unavoidable and you are not perfect.
Try giving yourself positive affirmations. It’s okay to make a mistake once, after all you are a human being. Don’t be harsh on yourself. Learn to be kind and polite because your head hears everything you say to it.
Conclusion
It might not be easy doing all these but just know that you can do it. You can improve your self esteem. You can become self confident. Mind you, there are times your self esteem will go low, so make sure you are always checking to know when you are lacking it too.
