5 Best Relationship Books To Read For a Strong Relationship

4 June 2022

Relationship is a course we should be studying in school because we have seen so many people who prospered in every area of their lives but failed in their marriage and later affected every area of their lives. However, we are grateful for some authors who have helped us with their experiences so far and now we can read from their experiences to avoid the mistakes they made or probably the mistakes others brought to them.

You can get these books on Amazon and can also ask from friends and family because they are common books that they are likely to have. I won’t be amaze if some of us have read some of these books.

Below are 5 best relationship books to read for a strong relationship:

1. The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts by Gary Chapman

You’ve probably heard of the five love languages, and this is the book that explains what they are and how recognizing what makes your partner feel loved can help deepen your relationship. It’s a pretty quick, active read and one with practical applications you can put into place right away, no therapist’s couch required.

This book has proven invaluable as a tool for clients in understanding that we all have different ways of feeling loved. One partner may give kind words because that’s what he needs in order to feel loved, but his partner may need quality time instead.

Giving what your mate needs rather than what you need increases your chances of feeling connected.” “This book is a perennial best seller and has been for decades,” says Winch. “And for good reason. It’s simple, short, and effective.”

2. The All-or-Nothing Marriage: How the Best Marriages Work by Eli J. Finkel

By doing a deep dive on how marriage functions from 1620 to the present, this book looks at how our relationships have evolved alongside society and offers data-driven “love hacks” on how to get the most out of yours today. It’s a must-read for those who like their advice with a side of serious research.

This book explains how marriage has evolved over centuries, why the best marriages today are better than those of the past, and what people can do to increase the odds that their marriage will be one of them. The book surprises us with the history of relationships, and helps us see how they have evolved today. The new challenge is to be able to support our partner’s dreams.”

3. Listen, Learn, Love: How to Dramatically Improve Your Relationships in 30 Days or Less by Susie Albert Miller

If you like your self-help in an actionable package, this 30-day guide is for you. With digestible, practical and even humorous tips for how to improve relationships, this book will also keep you accountable with an included progress tracker.

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4. The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country’s Foremost Relationship Expert by John M. Gottman, Ph.D. and Nan Silver

Written by one of the country’s foremost marriage experts and co-designer with his wife Julie Gottman of the Gottman Method, this book is basically a roadmap to how marriages should function.

His findings after studying couples over a period of years are both super head-smackingly straightforward and deeply impactful. You can check out the Gottman Institute.

5. Loving Bravely: Twenty Lessons of Self-Discovery to Help You Get the Love You Want by Alexander H. Solomon, PhD

You know the saying, “put your own oxygen mask on first?” By that same principle, you need to know what kind of love you’re seeking before you can find it. This book can help you do that, no matter what your current relationship status.

2022 Graduate: 5 Best Business Ideas For You

Johellaa

3 June 2022

Are you a graduate who just finished your education? Or probably you just finished a particular level and you are thinking of what to do for money before furthering your education? If the answers are yes, then this post is for you. One of the most confusing stages in a youth life is when he or she just graduated from school. That’s the best time to sit and think so deeply about your life. It’s the time to know what else you will do, if you will be furthering the education or if that’s all you want to have.

However, we have seen so many graduates stuck at the stage of what can I do when the rest of their mates are already doing one thing or the other. The fact is, you aren’t guaranteed success on that particular first job or business you start in school but the fact that you even started something at all will do you a lot of good.

The following are some business ideas for fresh graduate. These lists are compiled base on the success probability they have.

1. Freelancing

Freelancing is one of the most lucrative businesses in vogue and I can say it to us that a lot of people are really making it so big in freelancing. One of the reasons why I recommend freelancing at all is because you can start it without any capital. All you need is to sign up on some freelancing platform and render a service.

However, for you to make money on freelancing, you will need a digital skill which can be content writing, graphics designing, and web designing and so on. This is one of the reasons why we are always encouraged as a student to learn one or two digital skills because they will always help us at a point in time. Check out these skills for a start.

2. Dry cleaning business

Your service takes the burden off busy people and saves their time but like every business, integrity is key. I know someone who wore the clothes he was meant to dry clean to an occasion and the occasion had in attendance the owner of the cloth. You can imagine the rest of the story.

All you need to start this business is just a washing machine, some basin, a line to spread the cloth, iron and some pegs. This is quite simple to establish.

3. Makeup Artistry

Makeup design is one of the easiest creative business ideas that you can start in Nigeria. We all want the glam. The makeup artist has a job in the fashion and entertainment industry. For every professional photograph taken, you can see the touch of a makeup artist. Wedding ceremonies, movie makers, musicians, models, and others have placed makeup artists in high demand.

You do not have to be an artist to start. You can either enroll with a professional makeup artist or learn by watching a tutorial on YouTube. After you graduate, get yourself a makeup kit and you are good to go.

4. Graphic Designing

With designing platforms like Corel draw, Photoshop, and Canva you can help startups create content and manage their websites, blogs and get paid for doing so. You can also train people on how to use these platforms if you are good and that will be another means of income.

5. Tutorial Centres/Private Lessons

For those who paid attention to their study, I am sure you will be good at a particular subject. You could start a private lesson/ tutorial centre in your neighborhood by teaching students who are about to write exams like WAEC, JAMB or GCE.

These A level exams can be tasking and students usually require help in preparing for these exams and also, parents need their children to be occupied during the long holidays. Holiday time is a thriving period for private tutors.

You can market your tutorial or training centres through:

Social media

He who underestimates the relevance of social media to marketing is still living in a cave. Write a short post like ‘Do you need a private tutor for your child? Then call this number or send a message to me.’ Post this on your Facebook, Instagram and Twitter account. Ask your followers to share on their wall. Use chat platforms and also create a broadcast of your business.

Conclusion

It’s good to understand as a fresh graduate that life won’t always work out as you planned but it’s up to you to quit or persevere. The big business owners we have right now don’t just got there, they strive before reaching the level and if they can survive their hardship, you can too.

Marriage: 5 Important Issues to Discuss Before I Do

Johellaa

2 June 2022

Marriage is a life contract, I guess most people don’t know this and that’s why we have so many divorce flying around. I can’t help but wonder if those two people get to know each other at all before getting married because, you will just listen to the reason for some broken homes and all you will do is just laugh. We are so much engrossed in the marriage fantasy that we didn’t pay much attention to the real details.

Some couples see marriage as the beginning of a journey during which they will come to better know and love each other every day. Others prefer to have a clearer view of the path on which they are about to embark and I’ll consider them the wise ones. Toward that goal, couples should take the time to explore some basic issues which will confront nearly all married couples. It’s true if you say that you can’t know everything about your spouse but something about character is that it can’t be hidden. You will surely have a glimpse of what he or she is but we don’t even pay attention to those.

These are some of the more important issues you should trash out and discuss with your spouse before planning marriage.

Before Marriage You Should Talk About:

1. Money and Finances

Financial issues are a leading cause of divorce. People about to join their lives should discuss if and how they will join their finances. Spending habits and the existence of current debt should be disclosed. Disclosure of all financial accounts is a must. Keeping a secret bank account is sure way to deal a serious blow to the marriage once the account is discovered. Couples should determine if they will share joint bank accounts and whether income from all sources will be combined.

Other important issues include how much each might contribute financially to the purchase of a home or car, whether retirement accounts will be established and how each views saving, investing and long-term financial goals. Feelings about lending money to family members, living within a set monthly budget and how much debt is acceptable are also worthy of conversation

2. Children and Parenting

You might wonder how a couple about to be married could avoid discussing this issue, yet discussion is often replaced by assumption only to find a couple struggling with major differences in views a few years into the marriage. Couples should discuss the number of children they envision having and what specific circumstances should exist before starting a family. How might financial stability and career choices impact family expansion? If health issues prevent pregnancy, would adoption be a viable alternative?

Parenting styles are often based on a person’s own upbringing, and spouses may bring completely different experiences to the marriage. As such, exploring a few basic topics about child raising makes sense. After a child arrives, will one person become a full time stay-at home parent? Will use of daycare while both parents work be acceptable? Will discipline be enforced as a team or, primarily, by one parent?

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3. Sex

Our views of sex and sexuality are shaped long before we commit to marriage. It’s crucial to get comfortable with this topic of conversation, because it’s one that you’ll carry on for the rest of your married life. What are your views of sexuality?, and how have they been shaped? What is your past sexual history and how might that impact your relationship? What expectations do you have and are you on the same page? Understanding your sexual views and knowing your partners own is a valuable part of preparing for intimacy.

4. The In-Laws

Each party to a marriage typically becomes part of a newly expanded family. This creates plenty of new relationships to navigate and potential new obligations. Couples should discuss how much interaction with their own family members they anticipate after the marriage.

Will in-laws expect attendance at certain holidays and occasions? Will you expect your spouse to take part in your family’s traditions or will you start new traditions to celebrate events? Will vacations be shared with a spouse’s family? Consider what obligations may arise to help provide care for aging parents.

5. Future Residential Plans

Career choices can lead to frequent changes of locale. Particularly when you and your partner were raised in different geographic regions, it would be prudent to discuss where you see yourselves living once the choice is entirely yours.

Don’t simply presume that because you spent your youth on the west coast that a spouse raised in the north will naturally be agreeable to settle down thousands of miles from family. Remaining flexible on location is great. Just be sure you’re both on the same page.

Conclusion

it’s better to have those discussion now before it’s too late because those small and little things matters a whole lot and they will definitely save your marriage.

Learning a New Language: 7 Best Mindset You Should Have

Johellaa

1 June 2022

Learning a new language can be so stressful and hard at the start. We really need to put up a great work, time, energy, patience, effort, dedication, self-belief and be determined, because this languages aren’t our native language. Mindset has a very important role to play in learning a new language because we can’t do anything if we don’t have the mindset that are positive toward a particular thing, then we shouldn’t even try going there at all because we can’t make much impart since it’s against our mind.

The following are 7 mindset you should have when learning a new language. This mindset will help you in learning fast and efficiently.

1. I Can Do It

In everything we do, it’s necessary to have the mindset that tells us we can do it. This is a great source of power we need to implant in ourselves. There are times when we will think all odds are against us because we couldn’t manage our time, couldn’t get more resources to learn, we aren’t encouraged by our family and friends. This is one of the important reason why we should develop this kind of mindset.

2. Accept That Learning a New Language Takes Time

Some of us are so hooked up with the fact that we haven’t learnt so much and this has been distracting us from learning in full. I’m telling you today that learning a new language takes time and it’s important to know that.

Language learning takes time people have proven that it is possible to become fluent in a new language in as little as 3 months, but doing so always takes a real concentrated effort. If you really want to or must learn a new language in a very short timeframe, you must be willing to breathe, eat and sleep the new language in order to accomplish your goal.

3. Surround Yourself With Your New Language

Listen to and use your new language at every opportunity. Every time you have the chance, engage in conversations using your target language. Arrange to be in regular contact with people that speak the language fluently and who will be happy to help you.

And if you are not in a position to surround yourself with people who speak your target language (by studying abroad, for example) find a good language school and make sure there is plenty of opportunity to practice speaking the language. You could also make use of the Internet to find foreign language speakers who are willing to help practice your target foreign language.

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4. Always Keep in Mind Why You Want to Learn the New Language

Will understanding your new language help you in your job? Will it allow you to enjoy yourself more when you travel to different countries? Will it help you better understand your ancestral culture? Do you have friends or relatives that speak the language? Was it your parents’ or grandparents’ native tongue?

It is important to be very specific as to why you want to learn the new foreign language and constantly remind yourself why learning the language is important to you.

5. Make a Firm Commitment to Learning The Language

Always remember that other people have learned new languages and so can you. Often the largest single barrier to success is the fear that you will not fail. The tip here is to stop asking yourself if you can really do this. Accept the fact that you are a capable, intelligent individual and you are going to learn a new language. Period. Let’s face it, if your life depended on it, you would have no excuses and you would master the language in no time.

6. Don’t Take Yourself Too Seriously when Studying a Foreign Language

Anyone learning a new language is bound to make lots of mistakes. At times you may feel foolish or even believe that you appear childlike to those who are native speakers. However, understand that, in most cases, these people want to help you. To accept their help, though, you must learn to laugh at your mistakes not take yourself too seriously.

Agreed, it’s sometimes easier said than done, but try not to be shy of making a fool of yourself.

7. Get to Love and Understand the People, History & Culture

Don’t just try to learn the language, but also aim to learn about the people, the history and the culture of your target language. This may be one of the most important mindset tips of all. For instance, if you are learning Cantonese Chinese in Hong Kong, doesn’t it make sense to learn about the Hong Kong Chinese people and to understand their history and their culture? When you do, it will create within you an even bigger desire to learn the language.

Final Thought

Finally, I want you to know that you can do it. A lot of people are doing, this shows that it is possible that you too can do it. Even if you are not a native, you can still learn and speak like a native. Remember, it’s the mindset you have that matters. Practice the above mindset and see yourself soaring higher in the language field.

Online Dating: 8 Positive and Negative Aspects

Johellaa

31 May 2022

You are already into online dating or you want to know more about it, this post contains all the information you need, either you are already into it or want to consider it.

It’s not a rumor or something new to anyone again because at a point in time, almost all of us have engaged in online dating. Online dating is the situation whereby you start or continue a relationship through the social media however, it has now advanced to the extent that we have some dating platform whereby everyone there, are either looking for someone to date or someone to date them.

This phenomenon was sometimes considered a bad thing because of the negative influence it attracts but we have heard of so many people who met themselves online and later got married to themselves. This actually shows that we can’t guess or predict what the end result of an online dating can be however, 70% of it don’t stand the test of time.

This post will be explaining the Positive and negative aspects of online dating.

Positive Aspects of Online Dating

1. Freedom of speech is expressed

The fact that we have some people who doesn’t know how to express themselves so well, online dating can help them in their starting years. Some of us are so fluent when it comes to online chatting and communication but we can’t communicate so well offline. That’s an advantage for those who are shy.

2. It’s easy to get matched with someone compatible

Dating sites are all about compatibility. There are so many possibilities, with sites being aimed at every niche from same-sex partnerships to older couples to people with specific hobbies. There is every chance you’ll find someone on your wavelength.

3. You can narrow down searches according to parameters

Remember how difficult it used to be meeting someone in the real world who ticked all of your boxes in terms of personality? You can narrow down prospective candidates for dates simply by specifying the type of partner you are seeking as soon as you join a site. The power is very much in your hands.

4. You can learn all about someone before dating

Although it can sometimes be difficult to gain a full picture of someone’s character from a few paragraphs of online description, the more you get to know a potential partner by exchanging messages, the fuller the picture that will emerge. In this way, you can ensure there is chemistry between you before even contemplating a face-to-face encounter.

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Negative Aspects of Online Dating

5. You might not be communicating with the real person

There are fake people out there who can take advantage of the fact that people are trusting when they enter online dating. You might as well come across another site user who is being less economical with the truth or has presented a false profile photograph. Risk of meeting a dishonest person who created a profile with a dating site only for scamming other member, telling them he/she is in need of help and would appreciate if they could cooperate with money.

Some just pose as another person for some other reasons. It’s also easy to be cat fished in online dating. You can check out this movie to watch a sample of this aspect.

6. You could fall for someone who lives miles away

The larger dating sites have memberships across the globe. It is quite feasible to find yourself forging a real connection with someone who lives in a different country. Obviously, this throws up all sorts of logistical issues when you eventually decide you would like to meet them in person.

7. The experience can become addictive

People who get really into online dating sometimes find it hard to switch off. Like many other activities which are based on computers or smart devices, there is always an urge to flick through the screens to the next profile while you’re checking out available singletons.

People who tend to get involved in such relationship tend to forget everything else and sit in front of the computer almost throughout the day; such activities not only affect their other work but their health as well. They tend to stay online for long periods, skipping meals and sleep and avoiding their responsibilities.

8. Security

To be sincere, having a first time meeting with our long time online Lover can be somehow risky. We are in the world where we don’t trust ourselves because of so many motives people show.

Final Thought

Online dating is good and bad, has its pros and cons, just like the aforementioned, but the choice of engaging in it is fully yours. People differs, some people like physical dating while some prefer online dating. You can try dating online but be very careful now that you are already aware of the cons. Everything in this world is risk. Take the risk but be careful.

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