10 THINGS TO AVOID DOING ON YOUR FIRST DATE

11 March 2022

Are you planning your first date already? Or you have never gone out on a date before, but hoping to do so soon? Well! You are in the right page.

Sometimes we make some mistakes unintentionally, without knowing they are the reasons why we don’t end up making it to a second date. After reading this post, you will learn some things to avoid on your first date.

First dates are usually difficult to some people while to some its very simple but nervous filled.
When you are going out on a first date, knowing ahead of time what behaviors to avoid can save you from the mistakes that can cost you a second date with that person you like.
But I got you covered. With these 10 things to avoid doing on your first date, you sure will be able to get yourself a second date with that someone you like.

So, the 10 things to avoid doing on your first date are:

1. AVOID CONSTANTLY PRESSING OR CHECKING YOUR PHONE
Stay away from your phone. You won’t die if you leave your phone for max two hours or even more than depending on how long the date last. Constantly pressing your phone while on a date with someone is a turn off. You are giving them the impression that, they aren’t valued.

When you are constantly checking your phone, you are indirectly telling the other person that you are not enjoying their company, or you have other important things to catch up with. When you go on a first date, try your possible best to stay away from your phone.

2. AVOID LATE COMING
When you set a date, time, and venue of your first date, make sure you are there on time. Be punctual. Do not go late to your first date. Make sure everything is all set if possible a day before the date or few hours before the date, so you won’t go late. There is a good impression being punctual leaves on people.

3. AVOID TALKING ABOUT YOUR PAST RELATIONSHIP
Your past is your past and should remain in the past. Don’t ruin the good moment with someone new by talking about your ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend. Even when your partner brings up such discussion, try to go straight and don’t stay long on that discussion.

4. CHECK YOURSELF
Don’t be under or overdressed. Make sure you dress to impress. You should look neat, smart and scent lovely. Start by showering, shaving and spritzing on little cologne. You need to check yourself well, make sure you don’t have any bad odor. Do not eat smelly food or drink before going, to avoid your mouth smelling badly.

5. DO NOT TALK TOO MUCH ABOUT YOURSELF
Yes, you have achieved lots of things in life. Yes, you work in a good company. Yes, you have good character and lots of things. Yes, you have so many things to talk about. I understand you, but a first date is not the time to say all those things. There will still be enough time to disclose all that information.

Try your best not to talk too much about yourself, give your partner chance to say things about themselves too. Even if they are the ones that keep asking you questions, try to also ask them back to keep the conversation going. And do not ask too much questions, you are not there for an interview.

6. DO NOT GET DRUNK OR TRY TO GET YOUR PARTMER DRUNK
This is a big No! No!. If you have this in mind, please remove it now. Do not try to get your partner drunk to take advantage of them, that is a very bad behavior. You yourself don’t get drunk, because when you are drunk, you misbehave and that doesn’t give a good impression. So, try your best to drink to the level your head can contain.

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7. LET THE CONVERSATION BE A TWO-WAY THING
Make sure you always engage in the conversation. When there is a difference in opinion, do not make it a die affair or a must win case. Try your best to not engage in a fierce argument as that is not a good thing.

8. AVOID TOUCHINESS
You shouldn’t be touching your partner in a sexual manner. This gives a bad impression, it just tells the person this is how you always do on your first date. It reads a bad personality and you wouldn’t want that to happen.
Your touch should be natural. It should be a friendly and warm kind of touch. It shouldn’t be sexual. When you go on your first date, be mindful of touchiness.

9. AVOID DISTRACTIONS
I know you might want to check out that funny video your friend sent to you; the TikTok video that everyone is LOLing about. Don’t check it yet. Pay attention: give your full attention. Be present in the moment.

Take your time, and slow down, don’t rush. Pause before you speak. Pay close attention to your five senses: touch, smell, sound, taste, sight and savor them all.
You both sure deserve to enjoy this time together, even if it turns out that you are both not compatible and might probably not go on another date, make sure to enjoy the moment.

10. AVOID BEING DISHONEST
What will it profit you to lie and be caught and then seen as a bad person? Do not be dishonest with your partner on a first date. Lies knows how to haunt people in the future, so you really should avoid telling lies. Because you never know where, when and how it will catch up with you.
If you are not going on a second date, make it clear to the person . Start by appreciating the efforts they made for the first date before telling them you won’t be going on a second date with them. Do not lead them on.

FINAL THOUGHTS
First date is the beginning of something good. The beginning of your love journey. Sometimes it is the beginning of your future. Some people only go on a first date and end up together. So, it should be treated with caution.
Make sure to avoid these 10 things, so it won’t be your mistake that made you not to go on a second date with someone you like.
Do you have other things you want to add to these ones above? Feel free to leave a comment down below.

HOW KEEPING A PET HELPS YOU HAVE A HEALTHY LIFESTYLE

Johellaa

8 March 2022

Are you contemplating on why you should have or get a pet? Well! You are just in the right page, keep reading because this post will aid your decision making. Anyone can decide to keep pets be it children, adult or older people. Most people have a pet at some point during their lifetime. Whether it’s a cat, dog, fish, and rabbit or otherwise, pets give giggling and friendship that enormously upgrades our joy and adds importance to our lives. A 2015 Harris survey saw that 95% of pet people considered their animals as members of the family, showing the extent of their value.

Studies have shown that:

Pet owners are less likely to suffer from depression than those without pets.

People with pets have lower blood pressure in stressful situations than those without pets. One study even found that when people with borderline hypertension adopted dogs from a shelter, their blood pressure declined significantly within five months.

Playing with a dog, cat, or other pet can elevate levels of serotonin and dopamine, which calm and relax.

Pet owners have lower triglyceride and cholesterol levels (indicators of heart disease) than those without pets.

Heart attack patients with pets survive longer than those without.

Pet owners over age 65 make 30 percent fewer visits to their doctors than those without pets.

LET’S TALK ABOUT, HOW PETS HELPS YOU HAVE A HEALTHY LIFESTYLE:

Having a healthy lifestyle plays an important role in alleviating the symptoms of depression, anxiety, stress, bipolar disorder, and PTSD. Taking care of your pet can help you have a healthy lifestyle.

1. PROVIDING COMPANIONSHIP

Companionship can help prevent sickness and even add years to your life, while isolation and loneliness can trigger symptoms of depression. Caring for an animal can help make you feel needed and wanted, and take the focus away from your problems, especially if you live alone.

Most dog and cat owners talk to their pets, some even use them to work through their troubles. And nothing beats loneliness like coming home to a wagging tail or purring cat.

2. HELPS YOU MAKE NEW FRIENDS

Pets are a great social lubricant for their owners and help them build and maintain new friendships. On walks, hikes, or dog parks, dog owners often stop and talk.

Pet owners may also meet new people at pet stores, clubs, and training courses.

3. HELPS YOU DEVELOP A DAILY ROUTINE

Many pets, especially dogs, require regular feeding and exercise schedules. A consistent routine keeps the animal balanced and calm. And it helps you too. One obvious look from your pet, regardless of your mood (depressed, worried, or stressed), and you want to feed, exercise, and care for them. I have to get out of bed.

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4. HELP IN REDUCING STRESS

Touch and movement are two healthy ways to manage stress quickly. Stroking dogs, cats, and other animals can lower blood pressure, calm you down, and quickly relieve stress.

5. HELPS BUILD SELF-CONFIDENCE

Animal companions can bring comfort, relieve anxiety and build self-confidence to those who are afraid to go out into the world. Pets tend to live at that moment (no need to worry about what happened yesterday or what will happen tomorrow), so pets will help you be more attentive and understand your current joys.

6. HELPS BUILD CONNECTION

Walking, hiking, and running your dog are fun and rewarding ways to schedule healthy daily exercise. Studies show that dog owners are much more likely to meet their daily exercise needs, and daily exercise is also suitable for pets. It deepens the connection between you, eliminates behavioral problems in most dogs and keeps your pet healthy.

CONCLUSION

Most people would love to own a pet but due to some certain circumstances like: time, money and ability to rear them, they can’t. Don’t be discouraged, if you are really a pet person, you can ask to walk your neighbor’s dog or even volunteer to walk a pet in an animal shelter.

Keeping a pet around will really help you have a healthy lifestyle. But if you don’t like animals, please do not force it. If you have made up your mind to adopt a pet check out this site.

Feel free to leave a comment below, telling me the animal you prefer to keep as a pet. I know a friend who once had a chameleon as pet. I will love to know yours too.

10 SIGNS YOU MIGHT BE SETTLING FOR LESS IN A RELATIONSHIP

Johellaa

7 March 2022

Often times we tend to be settling in a relationship without knowing we are. I have been in such sitaution before where I was settling for less than I deserve but because I didn’t know I was, I continued being in that relationship. But it has ended now and I’m happier now. That is why I thought to write this post for you to know when you are settling for less than you deserve in a relationship.

Particularly in a sea of endless options, it’s hard to sometimes assess whether the person you are with really is Mr or Mrs Right, or whether they are perfect for just right now. If you are already asking yourself questions right now, then you are on the right page. Find out the answer by reading everything below.

WHAT DOES SETTLING IN A RELATIONSHIP MEAN?

“I think I am settling in a relationship” is an expression the vast majority use while examining their relationships with their companions. However, what does settling mean? Settling in a relationship implies being prepared to acknowledge not as much as what you need or deserve. Therefore, settling in a relationship can be something terrible.

At the point when you choose to settle in a relationship, you decide to acknowledge things that you profoundly know don’t sit right by you. The apprehension about losing the one you love is the primary motivation behind why you could settle or pitying them.

Settling often starts when you lose yourself to your partner. It happens when you start losing your value and changing small amounts of yourself to stay focused on a relationship that doesn’t serve your best interest.

However, it would help if you didn’t confuse settling with compromising. At the point when you decide to approve of all that your partner does to your detriment to make all the difference for the relationship, that is settling.

Then again, compromising is being prepared to acknowledge that your partner is flawed; they have their issues. Accepting imperfection is compromising.

We all have a list of non-debatable things we can’t approve. Assuming you end up disregarding the list of things you can’t endure to stay in a relationship that is settling. Accepting your partner is not perfect is compromising, which is important for every relationship.

Now let’s know if you are settling in your relationship:

1. You are on the look out

This means that, you have wandering eyes. When you go out, you are still looking for another person. You are still looking out to see if someone else will approach you or talk to you or ask you out even when you are in a relationship.

2. You envy other couples

When you start wanting what is going on for other couples, then you are settling for less in your relationship. You find yourself judging other couples. Being jealous of them and wanting to have their kind of relationship.

3. You fantasize about being single

When you start wishing you were single while still in a relationship, that is a red flag that you are settling for less than you deserve. Anyone who loves someone will always want to be around them.

4. You want to change your partner

When you don’t fully accept your partner. You keep on thinking about his or her potentials, what he or she could be. You want to just change everything about them: the way they smell, the way they keep their hairs, the clothes they wear, the way they talk etc.

5. You justify

You tell your friends about your partner but be like, “he is a good guy but he is not doing this or that” etc. there is always something that isn’t complete about him. They tick some boxes but not all of them.

6. When you pity them

When you start pitying your partner. You are afraid of hurting them so you just decide to stay with them out of pity. Thinking they won’t survive when you leave them and so you decide to settle for less by staying back with them.

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7. You don’t respect him

When you are in a relationship with someone and you don’t respect them, it just means you don’t love them enough or don’t see them as what you want, so you just treat them anyhow you feel like.

8. When you always feel uninspired

You feel unhappy, unfulfilled or disconnected from your partner a lot. You are not inspired by them, they are not ambitious and don’t push you to be the best version of yourself. You don’t just feel the spark, like they are not as ambitious or zealous as you are. They don’t motivate instead they demotivate you.

9. You don’t have intimacy or emotional connection

When you don’t feel like having sex or getting intimate with your partner and it bothers you a lot. Sexual connection, intimacy and emotional connection (such as navigating the bad time together, plus sharing deep seated fears, worries and concerns, as well as hopes and dreams) is a critical characteristic of a successful and healthy partnership that is meant for you. Assuming these are absent in your relationship, or you are not keen on being private or physically associated with your partner, then, at that point, it might propose there is a distinction among you. This, obviously, can regularly be credited to other behavior- but at the same time is frequently a sign that you are settling with somebody who doesn’t set your world on fire.

10. You’re afraid there is no one better

Regularly we ignore issues and red flags in a relationship when we are concerned that we may not find another person. We stay when we should leave. There might be issues with communication, connection, intimacy or your sex life – or issues about almost anything – yet the possibility of leaving makes you recoil – especially when time is elapsing and you are not generally as youthful as you used to be. Truth be told, this tension can turn out to be additionally exacerbated when loved ones around you begin to get married and settle down – just adding to the strain that you want to follow after accordingly and do what they are doing.

Dr Tari, relationship expert and clinical psychologist, explains that ‘if you have not yet developed a full and loving relationship with yourself and only feel complete or credible when you’re in a relationship and/or following the timelines of others then this is a big warning sign that you have some inner work to do. Staying in anything out of fear is a clear indicator that this may not be an aligned partnership ’.

CONCLUSION

You are more than you can ever imagine. Do not settle for bare minimum or settle for less than you deserve. You deserve someone better. Your dream man or woman exists and they are just a stone through away from you. When you notice you have started settling for less, quit or leave that relationship because it’s no longer a healthy one. I know it’s hard sometimes, but try and you will be happy you did.

Feel free to leave a comment below stating if you have ever been in a relationship where you were settling for less than you deserve.

TOP 5 BENEFITS OF TRAVELLING: Why you should start traveling in 2022

Johellaa

5 March 2022

Who doesn’t like traveling? I know that after reading this title some of you will quickly give excuse of “I don’t have money or I have little time”. There are cheap flights now and also cheap trains or buses to travel with now. The aspect of time, after reading this post I’m very sure you will be willing to create time for yourself and start traveling at least once in a year.

The benefits of traveling can’t be emphasized enough. There are just too many benefits of traveling; health wise, personality, experience, development etc. Studies show that travelling can improve your overall health and enhance your creativity. Therefore, you need to take time out from your daily tasks, office responsibilities, hectic schedule, and everyday pressures at least once in a year. Plan a tour to a new city with an open schedule and let life present you with the numerous opportunities. Traveling changes you psychologically and physically. Traveling brings positive changes to someone’s life. If you are not fully convinced keep reading below.

The top 5 benefits of traveling and why you should start traveling in 2022:

TRAVEL IMPROVES YOUR MENTAL, PHYSICAL AND EMOTIONAL HEALTH

People who travel often have less tendency to be stressed, depressed or even tired. Traveling can boost your happiness and satisfaction and make you to be emotionally balanced. It lowers risk of depression and relieves you from stress of life, work, relationship and any other form of stress. It helps your physical health because when you travel, you will have time to engage in some activities like swimming, hiking etc.

And studies have also found that traveling reduces the risk of cardiovascular diseases.

2. TRAVEL CHANGES YOUR PERSONALITY

Yes! Traveling changes you as a person, it enhances your creativity. Traveling will make you know the tiny space you occupy in this world. When you travel to a new destination, you have the opportunity to try new things and gain invaluable knowledge. Not exclusively does that lead us to change our way of life and perspective, yet it additionally fosters our personality and character.

Scientific research has proven that traveling influences an individual’s “Big Five”, comprising of five predominant character attributes, to be specific receptiveness to encounters, extraversion, enthusiastic dependability, conscientiousness, and appropriateness. By meeting new people and submerging yourself in another nation and culture, you for the most part will turn out to be more:

Receptive
Unconstrained
Fearless
Autonomous
Trusting
Tough
Innovative
Productive
- 3. BY TRAVELING YOU GAIN INVALUABLE EXPERIENCE

Traveling broadens your horizons and enhances your life experience. It helps you know more about other people’s culture, how to respect it and how to tolerate it as well. There is an Igbo proverb that says “the traveler has more knowledge than the gray haired”. This is because of the experiences the traveler has acquired while traveling. These experiences and knowledge can’t be compared with someone who hasn’t left a location or place of birth.

Despite the fact that these generally sound fabulous, there are likewise times that you need to adapt to new circumstances, issues, and difficulties. The abilities and experience you gain from these moment give you long lasting personal advantages as well as a benefit in the professional world. Generally, it makes you more fascinating personally. There is no doubt that every travel experience is different. Likewise the life lessons you will gain from them.

4. TRAVEL ADDS TO YOUR PERSONAL, PROFESSIONAL AND EDUCATIONAL DEVELOPMENT

People make up generalizations of places and people to better understand the world. This implies that you as of now have an assumption of what Italy, China, America or Thailand look like.

“The world is a book and those who do not travel read only one page” saint Augustine

Nonetheless, just when you at long last advance into the obscure and inundate yourself in the local culture of that place is the point at which you will find out. Your hands-on experience probably won’t meet your assumed perspective. This will change your viewpoint no matter what. It shows you things that you can just not learn out of books, similar to social and communication skills, social responsiveness and understanding, and worldwide capability. In our globalized world, these skills have become inestimable to a future employer.

Besides, traveling gets you real-life education. You will learn about the history, culture, and people in a given country. You even may have the opportunity to learn and pick up a new language! Which in my opinion, it’s better to learn a language from the indigene so as to know and understand better how to pronounce the words and the meaning of the words.

5. TRAVEL IS FUN

Yes! Traveling is fun. You get to make new friends. Meet different people from different social status and different backgrounds and culture. You get to even fall in love; some people do. Instead of only watching documentaries, TV shows, books about a place or nation, and listening to the history and culture of people from another person’s point of view, you will experience it yourself when you travel to that place. It will no longer be hear say. I don’t know for you but I love seeing and hearing from the horse’s mouth or from the place of origin.

FINAL WORDS ON WHY YOU SHOULD START TRAVELING IN 2022

I believe or hope I have been able to convince you to start traveling at least once in a year with these five benefits of traveling. I will also leave you with this lovely quote:

“Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things you didn’t do than by the ones you did. So throw off the bowlines, sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” Mark Twain

Note: Traveling must not necessarily be abroad, you can start locally and then go international.

Feel free to leave a comment below, stating where you have traveled to before or where you will be traveling to. Or the benefits that you like the most.

7 BEST TIPS ON HOW TO MAINTAIN A LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP

Johellaa

5 March 2022

Unlike when we have to wait for postal delivery to deliver the mail sent by our partner, technology has made everything easier albeit it cannot compensate for everything. Many people feel that long distance relationship is a waste of time and so don’t like giving their best. Many things won’t be possible due to the extra distance. Things might get complicated sometimes, you might feel lonely and sad.

Long distance relationship is tough, yes! You should know that. You won’t get to be kissing and holding hands together, smelling each other hairs but it is possible to have a strong and healthy long distance relationship. It is possible to maintain it. With these seven best tips, you will go a long way in doing that.

The Best Tips Are:

KEEP A CONSISTENT COMMUNICATION

Every relationship needs an effective communication to grow healthy and strong for both people who are close to each other. Long distance relationship will need double of that effective communication because you are not close to each other and don’t see yourselves often to know how and what the other person is feeling. For you to maintain a long distance relationship, you will need to communicate your feelings often to each other. Make sure you two, say good morning and good evening every day. Do not let the communication be excess.

2. DO THINGS TOGETHER

Doing things together like: playing games online, watching same movies or videos, listening to the same music or your favorite music, walking together, go online shopping and buying each other gifts will really help to make the relationship a fun one. Recommend books, TV shows, movies, music, news etc. and talk about it, so you will have more topic to talk about. Make video calls, send voice clips, pictures to each other.

3. DO OTHER THINGS

I know it can be very overwhelming when you fall in love. You would want to always be on the phone talking and chatting with your lover, but it’s not really healthy because it will make the love wane quickly. Don’t revolve around your partner. Make sure you have a life aside from your partner. Do well to hang out with family and friends. Go to the gym often, do the stuffs you love, have a hobby or even hobbies, work on yourself.

4. DON’T BE SCARED TO TALK DIRTY WITH EACH OTHER

Talking dirty is not a bad thing because sexual need is not only biological but also emotional. This will be sustaining you both until you see. Keep the flames burning by sending each other teasing texts filled with sexual innuendos and provocative descriptions. Sexy puns work pretty well too.

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5. HAVE A GOAL IN MIND

Set goals for your relationship. Ask yourselves questions like: how long is this long distance relationship going to last? What about the future? When do you see each other? How long will you stay apart before visiting or seeing each other? Who is coming over? All these questions should be asked and answered so as to help you two in your decision making.

6. ALWAYS STAY HONEST WITH EACH OTHER

Talk about your feelings of fear, insecurity, jealousy, and apathy, whatsoever. If you try to hide anything from your partner, that secret will sooner or later swallow you up from the inside out. Don’t try to deal with things all by yourself. Be open and honest with each other. Let your partner help you and give you the support you need. It’s better to look at the problem during its initial stage than to only disclose it when it’s all too late. This can really destroy a relationship, so pay very close attention to this.

7. KNOW YOUR SCHEDULES

Knowing when your partner is busy or free is very helpful. So you won’t be a disturbance. You wouldn’t want to call him or her when they are in a meeting or when he or she is having a very serious thing that needs absolute concentration. Make sure you are aware of everyone’s small and big events in their lives, particularly if you live in different time zone, this becomes more important. Be aware of things like semester exams, contracts etc.

FINAL THOUGHTS

These seven tips will surely help you have and maintain a healthy and strong relationship with your partner. Neither one of us expects to be long-distance in a relationship. But if you’re in a relationship like this, you’ll just have to make the most out of a difficult situation. These tips for long distance relationships will hopefully help you stay strong and cheerful when living apart from one another. Try your possible best to adhere to them and see yourself smiling sheepishly and feeling grateful you did.

If you have other tips, do feel free to drop a comment below.

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